Knowing that real love never ends, should help you understand there is no such thing as “falling in” and “out of love”.
Love is not primarily an emotion, but an attitude of the heart. Love is an unconditional giving of self to others regardless of the circumstances or condition. It is one of the major requirements for making any marriage work.
What It Means to Love Your Spouse
Have you ever thought about what you mean when you say the words, I love you to your spouse? In counseling people regularly declare their love for their spouse. However, if the person making this profession of love is struggling in their marriage, I usually ask them to define the word love for me. I ask for this definition because I have found that many couples struggle with loving each other in two ways.
The first is that they usually don’t understand the practical actions that are involved in loving another.
The second problem is much worse. Once a person knows how to love their spouse, they simply choose not to act on this knowledge. This failure to walk in love is the most common cause of problems in a marriage. Therefore, test your knowledge of what it means to love and determine if you are behaving in a manner that is helping or hindering your relationship.
Love to a man is a command love unconditionally
Submission to a woman is an act of obedience to God Love + respect – submission
Greek meaning of love for better understanding.
1. Phileo – is love on the level of casual friendship, marriage requires a deeper, more focused love Phileo provides
Phileo focus on personalities and physical attraction
Phileo tends to be ‘conditional’ love. As long as certain condition exist, the relationship exist.
2. Storge – the love of family
3. Eros – sexual love eros embrace sexual longing, craving, and desire, romantic love
4. Philia- shared experience-love for a shared goal
5. Ludus-flirting, playful affection
6. Philautia- self-respect, the joy in being true to our own values. The strength to care for
ourselves, so that we can care for others- not selfish kind of love
7. Pragma-love which endures. Love between married couple; endures in sickness and lack
8. Agape – the divine love, unconditional love, sacrificial love. Without agape love forgiveness becomes difficult.
A Communication
Ways to enhance Communication
1. Be a good listener- good listener are good lovers
2. Be sincere- don’t say things that you don’t mean, speak clearly
3. Be mindful of correct timing- seek for the right time to talk
4. Be sensitive about the location- always choose right time and right place to say things.
5. Be sensitive about the manner of approach- the tone of your voice and posture. Treat your
partner with utmost respect.
6. Gist, play, touch and gossip.
B Knowing likes and dislike
Every partner should get to know what are the likes and dislikes of your spouse for the good interest of your relationship. Likes are those things that gladden your heart, which you always want to experience. Please protect as much as possible. E.g food; social activities; football
Dislikes are those things that annoy you, which you will not want anybody to do to you or give you. They distaste and upset you.
C Understanding:
Family background, Cultural background, Educational background, Religious background, Social background
D. Be Patience
E. Intimacy
Types of intimacy
Physical intimacy
Emotional intimacy
Sexual intimacy
How to fulfill your part.
1. Be willing to learn
2. Be ready to improve
3. Get education- Attend seminars, conference and read books
4. Communicate
Couples should understand that love has the power to cure all emotional anomalies, it helps to eliminate or minimize conflicts. Love makes marriage easier and blissful.
Mo Abudu has opened a London cinema dedicated to African and Black films, saying her experiences growing up in England inspired her to help change perceptions of Africa.Abudu opened EbonyLife Place London on Thursday, 8 October, in south-west London near Nine Elms, with a 160-seat auditorium for films, performances and cultural events. AFP describes it as the UK’s first cinema dedicated exclusively to African and Black films. London Mayor Sadiq Khan joined the opening. The centre will also showcase African food and fashion.
Speaking in an interview with BBC Africa shared on X on Friday, Abudu recalled that when people were asked what came to mind at the word Africa, the answers she heard were “poverty” and babies with flies on their faces. She said those images came largely from what people read in newspapers and saw on television.
Growing up in England, she said, she found herself acting as an ambassador for everything African or Nigerian and was often asked “the most pathetic questions.” She said people sometimes said hurtful things and she learned to swallow them and move on. Racism is real, she said, and the way to deal with it is to offer a different narrative.
She described the cinema as a permanent, round-the-clock home for African and Black films, food and fashion. She stressed that it isn’t meant to keep those films off other platforms, but that because the community is underrepresented, it needs spaces where it feels safe and can share its own content while inviting the rest of the world in. The only way to do that, she said, is to be in charge of the narrative.
Membership will be open to everyone, with no ethnic or nationality restrictions, though details of the scheme have not been announced.
The programme is still being finalised, but Abudu has said it will include films from across Africa and movies that celebrate Black actors and storytelling, alongside the centre’s own productions and the next Black Panther film. She told AFP she would like to open a similar space in Paris, possibly through a partnership.
$20K, ₦400m mansion, other lavish gifts Peller and Jarvis received for wedding
The wedding of TikTok stars Habeeb Hamzat, popularly known as Peller, and Elizabeth Amadou, better known as Jarvis, was filled with memorable moments. Beyond the glamorous outfits, celebrity guests, and cultural displays, it was the extravagant gifts presented to the newlyweds that became one of the biggest talking points.
Even before the wedding day, gifts had already started pouring in, while several admirers promised to present theirs during the ceremony. Peller’s longtime TikTok supporter, Gregory, kicked off the celebrations with a generous wedding gift of $20,000.
Gregory travelled to Nigeria specifically for the wedding and expressed excitement about being part of the occasion. Speaking during the event, he also revealed his interest in investing in Nigeria. “I can’t relocate, but Peller and Peller are going to work on some investment opportunities in Nigeria. One of the things that I really wanna do is open a school here. Hopefully we can do it; that would be my dream
One of the biggest surprises of the day came from Delta based billionaire Mohammed Ochacho, who presented the couple with a mansion worth ₦400 million in Lifecamp, Abuja.
While announcing the gift, the businessman explained that his children encouraged him to make the presentation. “On behalf of my children, I am presenting a brand new house for you worth ₦400 million in Lifecamp, Abuja.”
The gesture came just days after Peller met Ochacho at music executive Soso Soberekon’s event. During that meeting, the billionaire introduced the content creator to some of his associates and had earlier promised him 10 cows as part of his wedding gifts. Peller later jokingly called him out for not fulfilling that promise before the mansion was eventually unveiled.
In June 2026, Peller proposed to Jarvis during a private beachside ceremony at La Palm Royal Beach Hotel in Ghana
Just weeks later, he paid her bride price during a traditional introduction ceremony in Edo State, after which they had a court wedding.
Speaking in a recent interview with Vibe Q, the Afrobeat superstar said he has already executive-produced two movies but wants to get more involved in the film industry.
The singer also disclosed that he has shot a documentary, which will be released soon.
“I want to get into movies. I want to start acting soon. I have invested in two movies already as an executive producer. I also have a documentary coming. It is very very big. And yeah, I do want to act at some point in the future,” he said.
Davido noted that music is innovative like technology, adding that artists need to keep evolving and exploring.
“God has blessed me with an amazing career and fans. I wouldn’t ask for another type of career. Music is what I love and music evolves just like technology.
“There’s always a new sound, a new creative idea and a new way to tell your story,” the singer stated.
Speaking on his career so far and his future in a recent episode of The Vibe podcast, the father of six explained that he won’t encourage any of his children to do music is because of his own experience.
He revealed that his second daughter, Hailey Veronica Adeleke, is already leaning towards music and has a good voice but he’s skeptical about supporting her.
“I don’t want any of my children to pursue music. My second daughter [Hailey] is already leaning towards music. She is the life of the party. She behaves just like me. She actually has a good voice.
“But I know what I went through. Can you go through what I go through? Knowing what I have been through, I’m skeptical about encouraging any of my children to do music,” he said.
Davido, however, added, “But because my parents and my family eventually allowed me chase me dreams, I would never want to block any of my children from chasing their dreams. And if they are good, why not?”
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