Knowing that real love never ends, should help you understand there is no such thing as “falling in” and “out of love”.
Love is not primarily an emotion, but an attitude of the heart. Love is an unconditional giving of self to others regardless of the circumstances or condition. It is one of the major requirements for making any marriage work.
What It Means to Love Your Spouse
Have you ever thought about what you mean when you say the words, I love you to your spouse? In counseling people regularly declare their love for their spouse. However, if the person making this profession of love is struggling in their marriage, I usually ask them to define the word love for me. I ask for this definition because I have found that many couples struggle with loving each other in two ways.
The first is that they usually don’t understand the practical actions that are involved in loving another.
The second problem is much worse. Once a person knows how to love their spouse, they simply choose not to act on this knowledge. This failure to walk in love is the most common cause of problems in a marriage. Therefore, test your knowledge of what it means to love and determine if you are behaving in a manner that is helping or hindering your relationship.
Love to a man is a command love unconditionally
Submission to a woman is an act of obedience to God Love + respect – submission
Greek meaning of love for better understanding.
1. Phileo – is love on the level of casual friendship, marriage requires a deeper, more focused love Phileo provides
Phileo focus on personalities and physical attraction
Phileo tends to be ‘conditional’ love. As long as certain condition exist, the relationship exist.
2. Storge – the love of family
3. Eros – sexual love eros embrace sexual longing, craving, and desire, romantic love
4. Philia- shared experience-love for a shared goal
5. Ludus-flirting, playful affection
6. Philautia- self-respect, the joy in being true to our own values. The strength to care for
ourselves, so that we can care for others- not selfish kind of love
7. Pragma-love which endures. Love between married couple; endures in sickness and lack
8. Agape – the divine love, unconditional love, sacrificial love. Without agape love forgiveness becomes difficult.
A Communication
Ways to enhance Communication
1. Be a good listener- good listener are good lovers
2. Be sincere- don’t say things that you don’t mean, speak clearly
3. Be mindful of correct timing- seek for the right time to talk
4. Be sensitive about the location- always choose right time and right place to say things.
5. Be sensitive about the manner of approach- the tone of your voice and posture. Treat your
partner with utmost respect.
6. Gist, play, touch and gossip.
B Knowing likes and dislike
Every partner should get to know what are the likes and dislikes of your spouse for the good interest of your relationship. Likes are those things that gladden your heart, which you always want to experience. Please protect as much as possible. E.g food; social activities; football
Dislikes are those things that annoy you, which you will not want anybody to do to you or give you. They distaste and upset you.
C Understanding:
Family background, Cultural background, Educational background, Religious background, Social background
D. Be Patience
E. Intimacy
Types of intimacy
Physical intimacy
Emotional intimacy
Sexual intimacy
How to fulfill your part.
1. Be willing to learn
2. Be ready to improve
3. Get education- Attend seminars, conference and read books
4. Communicate
Couples should understand that love has the power to cure all emotional anomalies, it helps to eliminate or minimize conflicts. Love makes marriage easier and blissful.
$20K, ₦400m mansion, other lavish gifts Peller and Jarvis received for wedding
The wedding of TikTok stars Habeeb Hamzat, popularly known as Peller, and Elizabeth Amadou, better known as Jarvis, was filled with memorable moments. Beyond the glamorous outfits, celebrity guests, and cultural displays, it was the extravagant gifts presented to the newlyweds that became one of the biggest talking points.
Even before the wedding day, gifts had already started pouring in, while several admirers promised to present theirs during the ceremony. Peller’s longtime TikTok supporter, Gregory, kicked off the celebrations with a generous wedding gift of $20,000.
Gregory travelled to Nigeria specifically for the wedding and expressed excitement about being part of the occasion. Speaking during the event, he also revealed his interest in investing in Nigeria. “I can’t relocate, but Peller and Peller are going to work on some investment opportunities in Nigeria. One of the things that I really wanna do is open a school here. Hopefully we can do it; that would be my dream
One of the biggest surprises of the day came from Delta based billionaire Mohammed Ochacho, who presented the couple with a mansion worth ₦400 million in Lifecamp, Abuja.
While announcing the gift, the businessman explained that his children encouraged him to make the presentation. “On behalf of my children, I am presenting a brand new house for you worth ₦400 million in Lifecamp, Abuja.”
The gesture came just days after Peller met Ochacho at music executive Soso Soberekon’s event. During that meeting, the billionaire introduced the content creator to some of his associates and had earlier promised him 10 cows as part of his wedding gifts. Peller later jokingly called him out for not fulfilling that promise before the mansion was eventually unveiled.
In June 2026, Peller proposed to Jarvis during a private beachside ceremony at La Palm Royal Beach Hotel in Ghana
Just weeks later, he paid her bride price during a traditional introduction ceremony in Edo State, after which they had a court wedding.
Speaking in a recent interview with Vibe Q, the Afrobeat superstar said he has already executive-produced two movies but wants to get more involved in the film industry.
The singer also disclosed that he has shot a documentary, which will be released soon.
“I want to get into movies. I want to start acting soon. I have invested in two movies already as an executive producer. I also have a documentary coming. It is very very big. And yeah, I do want to act at some point in the future,” he said.
Davido noted that music is innovative like technology, adding that artists need to keep evolving and exploring.
“God has blessed me with an amazing career and fans. I wouldn’t ask for another type of career. Music is what I love and music evolves just like technology.
“There’s always a new sound, a new creative idea and a new way to tell your story,” the singer stated.
Speaking on his career so far and his future in a recent episode of The Vibe podcast, the father of six explained that he won’t encourage any of his children to do music is because of his own experience.
He revealed that his second daughter, Hailey Veronica Adeleke, is already leaning towards music and has a good voice but he’s skeptical about supporting her.
“I don’t want any of my children to pursue music. My second daughter [Hailey] is already leaning towards music. She is the life of the party. She behaves just like me. She actually has a good voice.
“But I know what I went through. Can you go through what I go through? Knowing what I have been through, I’m skeptical about encouraging any of my children to do music,” he said.
Davido, however, added, “But because my parents and my family eventually allowed me chase me dreams, I would never want to block any of my children from chasing their dreams. And if they are good, why not?”
Singer 9ice has sparked debate after saying his parents are his “God” and rejecting other deities, months after revealing he has practised as a Babalawo for 18 years.
9ice is once again at the centre of online debate after declaring that his parents, not any deity, occupy the highest spiritual place in his life.
In a video posted to his Instagram on Sunday, the artist said: “Today I’ll tell you something I don’t really talk about, but I’ll talk today. I love my mum, I love my dad, my god is my mum, my father is my god.” He went further in the comments, clarifying that the reverence typically reserved for an unseen God should instead be directed at one’s parents.
The singer didn’t stop there. “I don’t believe in inferior Gods,” he added, distancing himself from the worship of any other spiritual beings and insisting his belief system doesn’t fit neatly into traditional religious structures.
Predictably, the internet had thoughts, and most of them weren’t kind. A large chunk of reactions accused him of being under the influence of something, with many dismissing the statement outright rather than engaging with it.
This isn’t 9ice’s first brush with this kind of controversy, and that’s part of why the latest clip spread as fast as it did. Back in April, he went viral for a different but related rant, this time aimed squarely at Nigeria’s religious culture.
“You’ll leave Nigeria and go to Mecca to go and lick rock all in the name of Kabba,” he said then, arguing that decades of national prayer hadn’t translated into national progress. He compared Nigeria’s work ethic unfavourably to London’s, joking that between church on Sunday, Bible study on Wednesday and vigil on Friday, “when would you work?”
Some Nigerians found merit in his earlier point about productivity versus performative religiosity. Far fewer have extended that same patience to his spiritual claims, with both the Babalawo reveal and now this parental-deity comparison landing mostly as fodder for mockery rather than genuine reflection.
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